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‘Am I happy?’ The Hard Truths about Happiness we all Need to Know

‘Happiness is a choice, not a result.Nothing will make you happy until you choose to be happy. No person will make you happy until you decide to be happy.Your happiness will not come to you. It can only come from you!’ Ralph Marston How are you? I often start my talks with exactly this question,...

99% of Depressed People do this, so are you Suffering the Effects of Depression?

A traumatic incident Seventeen year old Rich was depressed. He had been taking driving lessons quite happily until an incident occurred when he mounted the pavement. Although the actual incident had been quite minor, in his imagination he had started playing a film of all the possible consequences of losing control of the car. He...

25 Positive Sayings to Give you Hope in Times of Self Doubt

The resilience of the human spirit never ceases to amaze me. A recent story in the Telegraph gave an incredible example of how people have the ability to draw on their inner resources to bounce back after being knocked down. ‘After rogue builders left her £160,000 out of pocket, it seemed that Carol Sullivan’s hopes...

[Video] How Vulnerability is a Strength Rather than a Weakness

Brené Brown studies human connection — our ability to empathize, belong, love. In a poignant, funny talk, she shares a deep insight from her research, one that sent her on a personal quest to know herself as well as to understand humanity. A talk to share. What did you think about this talk? Comment below…...

How to Deal with Jealousy …and How to Spot the Signs

Jamie and Jenny sat in my office. A young couple in love. But there was a problem. ‘I can’t stand it much longer’ Jenny said. ‘He watches me all of the time, checks my calls, and asks me questions about where I’ve been. Doesn’t he trust me? His jealousy is killing our relationship!’ Everything had...

Here’s a Method that’s Helping Insecure People Gain Confidence

‘Away from’ or ‘towards’? Danny broke up with his girlfriend. At first he didn’t notice the change in his behaviour. It was subtle and crept up on him. Slowly but surely however, friends started commenting; ‘Why didn’t you go to Jill’s party?’ ‘Didn’t see you at the squash club last week…?’ ‘How come you don’t...

7 Ways to Live Happier Than Most

You weren’t born into this world unhappy. As a newborn baby you were, as Carl Rogers(1) would describe, ‘a model of congruence.’ If you were hungry, you cried. If you were thirsty, you cried. If you were uncomfortable or wet, you cried. Those cries were designed to send messages to your carers that something was...

The Easy Way to Think and Dream Big

“Believe it can be done. When you believe something can be done, really believe, your mind will find the ways to do it. Believing a solution paves the way to solution.” Have you ever wondered what would happen if you stepped right outside your comfort zone and dreamed of the things you could achieve if...

Follow this Simple Plan to Overcome Shyness

Graham should have been looking forward to the party. It was the first invitation he’d received since he started his new job last month and he knew it was just the opening he needed to really begin to get to know his new work colleagues. Trouble was, he was simply dreading going. It had always...

Getting Stuff Done: How to Squeeze all the Juice out of your Day

‘Even a potato growing in a sack in a cellar, throws out shoots towards the light.’ Carl Rogers Human beings are naturally goal focused. Our innate brain wiring means we are programmed to instinctively move forward, not backward. We constantly seek to expand and grow. Where we choose to focus our attention is really important...

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