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There’s a lot of important stuff they simply don’t teach in school. They don’t teach you how to run your brain. They don’t teach you how to make your life work. They spend too much time testing your IQ and not enough helping you develop your EQ They don’t teach how to live well, love...

‘I’ve been promoted’ said Angela with a wry smile. ‘That’s great’ I replied ‘Isn’t it?’ ‘Well, yes it is but……there’s a problem!’ ‘I seem to have great difficulty taking the lead. It is something that makes me very nervous and although I will air my views in team meetings, my heart pounds and I feel...

Self confidence is defined by the Oxford English Dictionary as: ‘A feeling of trust in one’s abilities, qualities, and judgment’ Having trust in your own abilities, your qualities and your accurate judgement can mean the difference between feeling totally unstoppable or feeling totally petrified. Your perception of who you are has a real impact on...

The resilience of the human spirit never ceases to amaze me. A recent story in the Telegraph gave an incredible example of how people have the ability to draw on their inner resources to bounce back after being knocked down. ‘After rogue builders left her £160,000 out of pocket, it seemed that Carol Sullivan’s hopes...

Graham should have been looking forward to the party. It was the first invitation he’d received since he started his new job last month and he knew it was just the opening he needed to really begin to get to know his new work colleagues. Trouble was, he was simply dreading going. It had always...

There’s a psychological practice which has its origins in neuro linguistic programming and is the ultimate short cut to becoming the person you want to be. It’s called ‘modelling’ and anyone at the top of their game understands and uses the principle. If you want to accelerate your own success and put your foot on...

The trouble with Paula was, she was always worrying. She worried what people thought of her; worried about what she was wearing. She worried about being too fat….. being different….. not knowing the right thing to say. These inner worries were etched all over her face. Now, even when she felt happy, she seemed to...

Jake seemed very on edge as he sat in my consulting room. This was our first session and we were weighing each other up, trying to establish a working rapport. Jake’s impression of me would be largely subconscious. In other words, he would just ‘get a sense’ of whether I was OK or not OK....

Do you go to parties and sometimes feel you’re on the outside looking in? Do you look enviously at others who seem relaxed, happy and confident, those lucky individuals who are able to socialise with ease and confidence? Do you hold back at work meetings even though you have good ideas? Are you frightened to...